Friends with an ex, here are the dos and don’ts
Being friends with someone that you were previously in a relationship can be pretty interesting and awkward depending on how you decide to play it.
It can be interesting in the sense that you already know each other and know there taste and preference hence making it easy to handle.
The same can also be awkward if you didn’t part ways amicably. In this case, you can try to keep off and heal first until when you are sure that you can be objective with them.
Below are some of the dos and don’ts when considering friendship options with your ex.
Don’ts
Have sex with your Ex
Having sex might complicate your friendship. Even if you’re sure of your feelings, can you be sure that your ex doesn’t get his or her hopes up again? And if either of you is in a relationship, sex and cheating will jeopardize it. So before you get too cosy between the sheets, consider the consequences.
Get jealous
Nobody wants you to be over the moon when you see your ex with someone new, but if you are feeling very jealous, it may be a sign that you are not really over your ex and maybe there are some feelings left. And if that’s the case, being friends might not be the best idea.
Treat it like a relationship
This means no flirting, no cuddling, no late-night cute text messages. Because that will make it much more difficult to keep clear boundaries and rules.
It’s all too easy to fall back into old patterns with your ex, this is especially dangerous if you’re in a new relationship.
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Dos
Include your partner
If you are still friends with your ex, it’s a good idea, to be honest about it to your new partner.
Tell them that you are just friends, share your plans for meeting your ex, and maybe introduce them. Doing all this will save you, your ex and your new partner a lot of headaches and maybe even fights.
Give it time
If you have just broken up recently, it’s a good idea to give your ex and yourself some time to get over each other before you even consider being friends. Break-ups happen for a reason, and both of you will need time to heal and get over any anger or disappointment you have.
Always remember that you can’t force friendship.
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